We have backup batteries and they’re wonderful, but costly.

Alternatively, my neighbor has a gas generator from costco + a generator transfer switch- the switch made a huge difference in ease of use.

I am very tempted to buy that hat, though it may secure my “eccentric old lady” status.

I’m with 10:20. Sometimes things are untenable and you just snap. Sometimes you have to quit to be able to regroup and look for a new job. Sometimes talking to anyone is overwhelming. As has been pointed out, they have grown children so perhaps this is just moving a retirement timeline up a few years. There is so much vitriol toward someone in a situation y’all know 4 sentences about.

Are you the same person who thinks black tights are only for children? You must really miss the Model A Ford.

Oh come on, did you quit your job without discussing it with your husband? Not everything is about you.

Did you quit the job without telling your husband first? From your comment above it sounds like it was something that you talked about and even if he didn’t initially understand your perspective, he came around and was on board before you actually quit. If so, that’s a completely different situation than what OP’s husband did.